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You're Still That Girl: Get Over Your Abusive Ex for Good!
You're Still That Girl: Get Over Your Abusive Ex for Good!

For women who are tired of hurting at the hands of their narcissistic ex and ready to leave the darkness behind

2020

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Suzanna Quintana
Suzanna Quintana

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The Virago

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Shit You Have to Unlearn After Narcissistic Abuse

Get ready for a major rewiring — Loving a narcissist is a one-way street to Crazytown. When you live there, the rules are different than the outside world. You’re different. What used to make sense, doesn’t. Two plus two no longer equals four. Or does it? You can’t remember. It’s hard to think clearly. …

Narcissistic Abuse

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Shit You Have to Unlearn After Narcissistic Abuse
Shit You Have to Unlearn After Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse

5 min read


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About Me — Suzanna Quintana

I dedicate all my words to those from my past who want me to stop talking. — I used to be a good girl, otherwise known as a girl who only had nice things to say about the men around her and if she didn’t have anything nice to say then she better keep that shit to herself. I also was a tomboy, backyard pool diving champion…

Life Lessons

4 min read

About Me — Suzanna Quintana
About Me — Suzanna Quintana
Life Lessons

4 min read


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The Virago

·4 days ago

I Asked “Where Are All the Man-Hating Women At?” and Men in the Comments Let Me Know

Apparently, not only am I blind but I have a cucumber up my asshole — I’m the problem. At least that’s what I’m being told on a recent article I wrote asking where were all the man-hating women everyone was talking about. We’re definitely not in any short supply of accusing women of hating men. I’ve been on that list too many times to count…

Feminism

7 min read

I Asked “Where Are All the Man-Hating Women At?” and Men in the Comments Let Me Know
I Asked “Where Are All the Man-Hating Women At?” and Men in the Comments Let Me Know
Feminism

7 min read


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The Virago

·Sep 12

When Dealing with a Narcissist, Don’t Make the Mistakes I Did

Use my hindsight as your foresight — Look no further. Your poster girl for making every mistake with a narcissist is here. Regret aside, I might as well start with the biggest mistake of them all, the pinnacle of errors that at a young age kicked off my pattern of loving abusive men: I believed everyone was…

Narcissistic Abuse

6 min read

When Dealing with a Narcissist, Don’t Make the Mistakes I Did
When Dealing with a Narcissist, Don’t Make the Mistakes I Did
Narcissistic Abuse

6 min read


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The Virago

·Sep 10

I was Trained from an Early Age to Accept Men’s Abuse — It All Started with a Grasshopper

Though it’s not the bug’s fault — Before third grade, I wasn’t afraid of boys. I saw them all as extended versions of my little brother — simple-minded, guileless creatures who were nice to have around for a push when I wanted to swing to the sky, or if I was short a player for Parcheesi. Otherwise…

Feminism

4 min read

I was Trained from an Early Age to Accept Men’s Abuse — It All Started with a Grasshopper
I was Trained from an Early Age to Accept Men’s Abuse — It All Started with a Grasshopper
Feminism

4 min read


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The Virago

·Sep 5

Where Are All the Man-Hating Women I Keep Hearing About?

Who hates who here? — Every woman in the history of the world — okay maybe just in the history of the internet — has either been accused of or heard another woman being accused of hating men. My mistake, I didn’t mean every woman. Clearly, I’m only talking about those nasty power-hungry abortion-loving bra-burning…

Feminism

5 min read

Where Are All the Man-Hating Women I Keep Hearing About?
Where Are All the Man-Hating Women I Keep Hearing About?
Feminism

5 min read


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The Virago

·Aug 30

The Physics of Narcissistic Abuse — You Can’t Heal in the Same Place You’re Getting Sick

You can’t stay with a narcissist AND be okay — I’ll love him harder. I’ll love him better. I’ll lose myself in loving him to the point of making myself sick. Then he’ll change, right? Then we can go back to how it used to be when I wasn’t so tired, when the reflection wasn’t a stranger, when my heart…

Narcissistic Abuse

4 min read

The Physics of Narcissistic Abuse — You Can’t Heal in the Same Place You’re Getting Sick
The Physics of Narcissistic Abuse — You Can’t Heal in the Same Place You’re Getting Sick
Narcissistic Abuse

4 min read


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The Virago

·Aug 19

First Rule of Abuse: Don’t Talk About It

I guess that makes me a rulebreaker — Don’t. Don’t do it. Don’t you dare tell anyone what happened or you’ll be sorry. I hit Publish anyway, ignoring the menacing voices in my head. Even with all the writing I’ve done over the years, all the sharing of my experience with abuse, all the curtain-pulling on wizard impersonators…

Abuse

4 min read

First Rule of Abuse: Don’t Talk About It
First Rule of Abuse: Don’t Talk About It
Abuse

4 min read


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The Virago

·Aug 10

Today is My Mom’s Birthday and She’s Turning 10 Years Younger

Amazing what leaving an abusive man will do for your health — We had been planning her rescue for months. We called it “Operation Freiheit” which means freedom in German, my mother’s native language. The mission: to get my mom out of my father’s house as soon as possible. She had only recently moved in with him when the trouble started. They’d…

Abuse

9 min read

Today is My Mom’s Birthday and She’s Turning 10 Years Younger
Today is My Mom’s Birthday and She’s Turning 10 Years Younger
Abuse

9 min read


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The Virago

·Aug 7

Join Me at Medium Day and Learn “How to Write Your Story AND Get People to Read It”

Think of your title like a door… — Your story is important. What you’ve been through, what you’ve experienced, what you’ve learned — all have the potential to change the lives of those reading your words. But where to start? Do you begin at the beginning? If you’re writing about your experience with trauma, for example, do you…

Medium Day

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Join Me at Medium Day and Learn “How to Write Your Story AND Get People to Read It”
Join Me at Medium Day and Learn “How to Write Your Story AND Get People to Read It”
Medium Day

2 min read

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Suzanna Quintana

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My voice is my superpower. Editor-in-Chief of The Virago. Founder of The Narcissist Relationship Recovery Program. www.suzannaquintana.com

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